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Steve Harvey: Straight Talk, No Chaser
If you are a woman who has always wanted to understand how the male brain operates, then Steve Harvey's book is worth reading. Although a lot has been written about the nature of relationships between men and women, Harvey's latest book Straight Talk, No Chaser is different; it's written from the perspective of a man giving women relationship advice.
Harvey explains to women how to avoid men who fear commitment and how to find a man who's willing to commit. He teaches women why it is very important to make it clear for a man at the beginning of a relationship what it is she wants. Harvey argues that if a woman expects commitment from a man, then she should make it a relationship requirement. He reminds women of the power they have in relationships and that men cannot and will not use women who don't want to be used.
Straight Talk, No Chaser covers a wide spectrum of topics. It tackles issues like dating, how men perceive different types of women, how a man's age affects what he needs in a relationship and how to truly understand what a man has in store for you. Harvey also discusses how to maintain a successful relationship when you’ve been married for a long time and the flame of newly found love has been put out.
He discusses several problems that couples might face, including how a woman should behave if her husband loses his job and she becomes the sole breadwinner of the family.
It should be kept in mind that Harvey's views are based on his own personal experiences with his wife and his observations on his parents' relationship. Nevertheless, he tends to make generalisation about men and women alike. He speaks on behalf of his entire gender, which is quite presumptuous. In all fairness, he does mention that not all men are the same and there will always be exceptions to the rule; but it doesn’t seem reasonable for one man to claim he understands the nature of all men.
Straight Talk, No Chaser doesn't add a lot to Harvey's previous book Act like a Lady, Think like a Man. The book itself contains many repetitions of the same theories and opinions.
This book is a quick read. It probably won't enlighten you drastically about the nature of the opposite sex, but you can sure pick up a thing or two from a man who has grown up in a house with a successful marriage and who has been married three times himself.
Detective Bosch has a lot going on in his personal front as well; his fifteen-year-old daughter who is way too mature for her age and wants to grow up to be a police officer is his main support system at home, and a budding romance between Bosch and a social worker adds a tinge of romance to Bosch's life.
The novel is left open-ended, in a way that allows the characters to seem more real as if their lives will continue beyond the pages of the novel.
The fact that smoking is bad for your health is not debatable. Although a lot has been written about the health hazards of nicotine and what it does to your body, particularly your lungs, many well-educated people continue to smoke. Sorry, I Don't Smoke deals with smoking in a completely new light.
The book doesn't simply demonstrate the dangerous effects of smoking, the oodles of money that could be saved if you quit or that you may be harming the people you love with second-hand smoke. Instead, it tackles the misperceptions associated with smoking, and how smoking is perceived as a habit that could be given up anytime rather than an addiction that steers the lives of many.
The author's views are based on a book titled The Easy Way by Allen Carr. Sherif Zaki writes that the aforementioned book changed his life and that he hopes that Sorry, I Don't Smoke would in turn change the reader's life. He admits that smoking doesn't fulfil one's emotional needs nor does it boost one's spirits. He stresses that this admission is the first step towards recovery. Zaki argues that there is no magical way to become a happy non-smoker, and that it all begins with dispelling the tricks that your mind has been playing on you. Smoking is a trick, that's all.
The book isn't a step-by-step guide to how to get rid of the murderous habit; rather a guide to help you quit smoking without feeling miserable. It aims at changing mindsets rather than changing behaviours. Zaki defies established perceptions, admitting that when he was a smoker he was a miserable person. He says that smokers are deluding themselves when they say that smoking makes them feel better.
Many of the arguments Zaki makes in his book are logical and well-formed. Sorry, I Don't Smoke is a personal book. It gives you glimpses into the author's life and helps you understand him better as a person. There are several grammar and punctuation mistakes in the book, but that doesn't diminish the core values that the book represents. Zaki's writing is simple and lean, yet many of the ideas he presents are repeated in many chapters.
For many smokers, Sorry, I Don't Smoke might be just another book among many that have tackled the issue. However, for those who sincerely want to quit, Sorry, I Don't Smoke is definitely a good starting point.